Maybe im not the world's most tolerant person, but i really hate these things. I just get so annoyed when it happens. There's just something wrong with the underlying values when they do such stuff.
1) Not eating properly
- Only eating a piece of bread for dinner. and calling it "dinner bun"
Why i hate it: Weight is more important then food. Hello you are like disappearing already. Not like you'd actually listen if i lecture you.
- Making us wait for you to come for dinner, and then not eating anything, just because we have finished eating, and then making us feel guilty that you arent eating just because we have finished eating already. Just buy your food and eat! its less annoying then not eating!
Why i hate it: Face is more important then eating. Why on earth should friends care about "face"
2) Always asking questions when i have already told you the answer, or the answer is not important or relevant (to me)
- Where are we meeting? How to get there? What time? (when i have already told u)
Why i hate it: You didnt read my email or my sms properly. Please be a bit more responsible, and save these things. If you are going to ask me again, like the day before or 1 hour before, why on earth did i waste my electricity and time sending you a sms?
- Who's going? (once is ok, twice is ok, only if i told you "i dont know" the previous time.. more then that... is.....)
Why i hate it: You dont appreciate what the organizer is doing for you, or the activity. You only care about who is going.
You are supposed to be going, because you would enjoy the activity. Me being there not good enough for you that you need to see who else is going, and if that special someone isnt going, you are going to tell me no izit? Who is going isnt really going to change ur participation, and its not like you are going to sms more ppl to get them to come, even if i told you, so why on earth does it matter to you? If you really wana know, and recieve updates like every day or every second, then next time organize the event urself, then you will be at the forefront of knowing EVERYTHING.
3) being SECRETIVE
Hey tmr lets do XXX
Sorry ivh got something on.
worse still, when you ask "whats on?" Then they say ivh got something on with "YYY" and they dont even explain what they are doing, or who is that YYY, or better still YYY is a generic term like "HIM" or "HER" or "sibiling" or "FRIEND"(this is e worst) and they dont state the activity at all. something on is just too vague.
Why i hate it: We are FRIENDS! arent friends supposed to tell each other everything, without your friends needing to ask, and ask, and ask n ask you? Dont good friends want to tell each other everything?? Are you really my friend if you are so secretive? why cant you just tell outright? why must we ask so many questions, then only you tell us? if you are still going to tell us in the end, why cant you just tell us from the beginning? Or is it that you are purposely doing this, so that everyone's attention will be on you, when you finally bring out the "final answer" because you love attention?
but other then these stuff.. im fine with almost everything else... like being late, being stupid, attracting attention(unintentionally), being obnoxious, being sarcastic, being annoying, being loud, (as long as everything was not done on purpose)
I guess its just when they dont respect their own health, or they dont respect what other people have done for them, then i get annoyed..
But then im a big idiot because i boil up and then i just brush it aside. No point spoiling friendship about silly petty things.
Can somebody explain to me why on earth do these people engage in such weird behavior so that my "misunderstanding" and "mis-perception" is cleared up?