Childrearing tips

Hmm interesting

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Is my betta fish sick?

I need help.. Is it constipation?  I tried the frozen pea today but he seems to have lost even more colour.. whats wrong?

2013 in a post

I saw one of my friends doing this. He had like 6 points only. It got me thinking. Is that all there that happened in his life for that one year?

Or is it just a highly abridged,  censored version? 

Whatever it is, 2013 just went by so fast, I cant rmb where 2013 started n 2012 ended.

And here I am sitting at the polyclinic regretting why I didn't get the stupid jab earlier before I hit 26. Its 120 a shot.

Maybe I should try to immortalize parts of 2013, some parts I wish never happened, some parts first times, some parts with lessons learnt that I hope that I will never forget

1) urinary tract infection. How many times? 3 times. 1x in 2012, 2x in 2013. I keep reminding myself to wash, and to wipe from front to back. And the implied death threat from upper tract n kidney infection? Lets not even go there about my 5 days of mc and missing the retreat. Just the thought of it gives me shivers.

2) going to korea with tong's parents, family n friends. After 2 weeks of crying on the subject. The late nights. The anxiety and fear. I dont think I need to say anymore. Im just glad that things seem more normal now.

3) bringing mum to mbs (todai), singapore flier and some random chinese restaurant style buffet from groupon. Its times like this that really remind me that although mum spends frivolously on strange but cheap items (tuppowear everywhere, hordes of newspaper n toilet paper) she has still lived a thrifty lifestyle and hasnt had any of these luxuries (eating at restaurants) in ages, so its nice if I can bring her out more often

4) grandma's stroke. I saw a completely different side of my dads family (which was already more close knit then my mum's) so many falling outs, so many hospital visits. So glad im at moe n so near to visit. But its so tiring to always have to be the pillar of support when the people around me (parents) break down. It scares me that people get lonelier when they get older,  and the only people they have left to turn to is their own immediate family, and their siblings. Right now I have none. Will I lose it all and become the loneliest person of all in the future?  Im scared.

5) trip to phuket 2013 - its been so long since the last time that I hung out with my fellow gapsters, that it just felt so weird. I didn't know what to talk about.  No common topics. The ones I was closer to.. the only things we talked about was clubbing and drinking which was why I distanced myself from them, in the first place. I really felt the gap. Because I dont live that kind of lifestyle anymore. And how the common topic of those who didnt club was suanning and belittling. I need to reconsider this part of my life.

6) making new friends at work and new 'enemies'. I lost valerie, was annoyed with then became  ok with cs, gained new friends j&k. And met a whole other group of clubbing fanatics that im trying to steer clear off, yet remain friends with. This chapter isnt closed yet so im just seeing how it goes.

7) getting my flat! I got my flat, need I say more?  Now im worrying about floor space n where we r going to put the hordes of guests who have already been invited / self invited. Everyone seems even more excited then me. And im really excited that eunice has volunteered to help out. But its quite sobering. In 3 years. Who is going to be left in woodlands? Not me. Not dina who is moving to yishun. Jy wont be coming here, she is moving to boon lay. I dont understand why I feel this way.  I must hav been out of my mind when I thought that I could move out, but come back and visit anytime and things would be the same, exactly the way it is, visiting nisha's house on Deepavali, and just walking to the back to dina's house, and us all travelling home together on the mrt train for 1 hr from orchard.  I don't know.

8) my group of friends. Seems like almost everyone has graduated and is working, or working and pursuing further studies.  Those who didnt, kind of got left behind. Not sure how it happened,  but seems like we'vh grown apart. Yes you, its you im talking about. Maybe im just not as crazy as I used to be, or maybe you'vh grown to a whole new level of crazy. Maybe we just dont like the same things anymore. We used to have overlapping interests, but we gave up opposite ones and we don't have anything in common anymote. Maybe you just don't have time for me anymore. But whatever it is, hell, I do miss you. All of you.

I don't know. I feel like my life changed alot in 2013. Im really en route to becoming a "big person" ivh nvr been one of those ppl who couldnt wait to grow up. Ivh always wanted to be a child all my life. And suddenly bam im there.  Knocking on my door. The next step. The next challenge.

Maybe ill look back on 2011/2012 another day such that you can see the stark the stark contrast.

Why do we have to grow old?

Best weekend ever

I dont know why this weekend was the best weekend ever
Maybe it was beacuse I had a great sat with tong
And a great Sunday with friends (river safari, baking, mahjong)
And I fufiled my obligations at my grandma's birthday
Maybe it was the fact that I didnt have to leave woodlands to have so much fun

Ahh to relive the feelings of those days again

Annoying little man

Will you shut up and listen
You are missing the point with your grammar nazism
Stop micro managing and look at the big picture
God I thought thats what they hired u epas for

Grandpa

How did you get so lonely

I dont know when it happened

Or when it dawned upon you

That you were alone

And you started to feel lonely

I told you to call if you need me

I didn't dare to ask more

But I knew that they didnt come to visit anymore

I side stepped the questions

Tried to ask about those that I knew did

Maybe that's when the loneliness started

I asked about breakfast

To learn even your friends had left you

The intrinsic motivation within

It keeps crying out

But I kept it shushed with practicality

But why does it feel like

I didnt know how to say no

Told myself accepting it would make him happy

Why do I feel

Feel like ivh just sinned

I told myself I would use it for him

To breathe life back in again

This I will do

But for other aspects

I dont want to over promise what I cant deliver

I don't want to make promises I will break

I dont think there's any right or wrong

But more of whats more important right now

To look on to life with the living

Or to look back

And sustain the life of the leaving

im confused

Maybe I just need to read some self help guides

The divorcee

She broke down and cried
Told me about her divorce
And her colleagues
And how her dad told her that she had no people skills

The truth about random strangers

Finding out that  a random stranger made the effort to say happy birthday to me at work

Im genuinely surprised and happy

Finding out that he actually takes the effort to IM me each day

Im surprised but suspicious but I don't really bother to reply much to him

Finding out that he finds me "pretty" "sweet" "attractive"

Im flattered but I don't bother to respond to him

Finding out that he has a car and stays at yishun and would like to offer me a lift

I quickly say no

Finding out that he is leaving

A tiny part of me feels sad to have another less friend to say hi to

Finding out that he wants to know if im attached

Im suspicious beyond belief but I dont bother to reply to him

Finding out that he has a girlfriend whom he is looking at ec in woodlands with

I ask myself what motive does he have in talking to me

When he left...

Finding out via facebook that the guy who has been chatting me up at work via IM is actually married with a kid

Im unbelievably disgusted beyond belief

What kind of game was he playing????

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Love life children sibilings falling out and death